Highly vetted. Invitation only.

The leading community for technology leaders.

No one leads alone.

60 minutes live every fortnight, with a special guest and a Q&A that never leaves the room.

No membership fee. No sales pressure. Just a room of peers carrying the same weight you are.

130+
live sessions
3,000+
technology leaders brought together
1,230+
books sent

Before you go any further

The Curious Mindset isn't for everyone.

Truth be told, we don't accept everyone. Every request is vetted and two rules decide who gets in.

You must be a technology leader.

You lead technology, or the people who do. If that isn't you, this isn't the room for you. That's what keeps it useful for the people who are in it.

We don't let bad oranges in.

One bad orange in the basket and the whole basket goes. Same in our room. One person who is in it for themselves, whether to sell, to network or to perform, will spoil it for everyone. So they don't get in. If one slips through, they're removed.

The right people in the room will always matter more than the size of the room.

Who it's for

Technology leaders who want a circle to lean on rather than a feed to scroll past.

Technology leadership is demanding. Most weeks are spent in reactive mode. Firefighting, chasing delivery, buried in decks. All while figuring it out alone. That leaves little room to grow as a leader.

  1. You want honest conversation, not more noise.
  2. You lead through uncertainty, where there are rarely clear answers.
  3. You carry pressure no one sees. From the business, for the team and from yourself.
  4. You're curious enough to let your thinking be challenged.
  5. You build people as much as technology.
If three of these are true, you're probably one of us.Request an invitation

Some of the titles we tend to find you under

CIOCTOChief Data and AI OfficerIT DirectorHead of ITHead of TechnologyInfrastructureIT OperationsService DeliveryEnd User ComputingCloudNetworksIT ProcurementVendor Management

What actually happens

By invitation only.

The fortnightly session is the heartbeat. Around it sit a monthly dinner and quarterly live events. Guests include athletes, founders, adventurers, military leaders and leadership experts.

Every fortnight · Virtual

The session

60 minutes live, usually Fridays 1pm to 2pm UK time. A guest, a conversation and a Q&A that never leaves the room.

Monthly · In person

The Twelve Table dinner

Twelve seats at one table for an evening, shared between technology leaders and our guests. No stage, no agenda.

Quarterly · In person

Live events

The whole community, face to face, with guests.

In between

  • Curious Conversations
  • The book club
  • Personal development sessions

Inside every session

Seat one

The 2026 host

Andy McMenemy, elite mindset coach and leadership facilitator, runs the room.

Seat two

The co-host

Steve Maxwell, technology leader who translates it for the room.

Seat three

The guest

Conversations with peers, coaches, leadership experts and people with stories we can all learn from.

Seat four

The room

You, and technology leaders who understand exactly what you're carrying.

No membership fee

There isn't one. Not for the sessions, the dinners or the books.

No sales pressure

Nothing is being sold here, to you or to anyone else.

Chatham House rules

Nothing a member says is recorded, quoted or attributed anywhere.

You cannot get this on a podcast.

You follow a podcast. You belong to a community.

The book ritual

Attend the session and the book arrives at your door.

We don't do branded merchandise destined for a bin. We post you the book written by the guest you've just spent an hour with.

1,230+ books sent so far.

Build for TomorrowJason Feifer
Find Your WhyMead & Docker
The Good FightLiane Davey
Little WinsPaul Lindley
Speak-Up CultureStephen Shedletzky
The Four Sacred GiftsAnita Sanchez
RemoteFried & Hansson
An Officer, Not a GentlemanMandy Hickson
The Compassionate GeekDon Crawley
The Warrior, the Strategist & YouFloyd Woodrow
Be More PirateSam Conniff

This year's theme · September 2026 to June 2027

The parts of leadership no one talks about.

The doubt, the loneliness, the decisions that went wrong.

Framework

Gives you a way to think about the theme, with a tool or a reframe you can use on Monday.

Story

Gives the floor to someone who lived it and is willing to say so out loud.

Just happened · Fri 4th Sep

Gerald Ratner

Failing in public

The man behind the most famous corporate gaffe in British history, on what it costs to fail where everyone can see you, and what comes after.

Next session · Thu 17th Sep

Jerry Colonna

The loneliness of the chair

The coach behind Reboot and some of the best-known founders in technology, on why leading is lonelier than anyone admits and what to do about it.

DateModeSubjectGuest
Fri 4th Sep 2026StoryFailing in publicGerald Ratner
Thu 17th Sep 2026 NextFrameworkThe loneliness of the chairJerry Colonna
Fri 2nd Oct 2026StoryBreaking and rebuildingAnnounced to members first
Fri 16th Oct 2026FrameworkThe dark side of leadingAnnounced to members first
Fri 13th Nov 2026FrameworkWhat goes unsaidAnnounced to members first
Fri 27th Nov 2026StoryChoosing your attitudeAnnounced to members first
Fri 11th Dec 2026FrameworkWho you are when you leadAnnounced to members first
Fri 15th Jan 2027StoryThe human side of a turnaroundAnnounced to members first
Fri 29th Jan 2027FrameworkLeading without a mapAnnounced to members first
Fri 12th Feb 2027StoryThe interior life of workAnnounced to members first
Fri 26th Feb 2027FrameworkWhat organisations refuse to seeAnnounced to members first

Members hear who's coming before anyone else does. Sessions from March to June are announced to members first.

Some of our past guests

Leaders from very different rooms.

They've walked to both poles, talked hostages free, won Commonwealth gold, flown with the Red Arrows and trained the 1,200 volunteers who went to fight Ebola in West Africa. One was on the FBI's most-wanted list and one created Ruby on Rails. Two wrote a book with Simon Sinek and every so often the guest is a technology leader.

Most of our guests we go and find. If you've written the book or lived the story, we'd like to hear from you.

The room, in their words

We could tell you what it's like, but it's better coming from them.

5.0 on Google from 84 reviews. Read them
Having attended a few Curious Mindset sessions so far, the value add this has given me is immeasurable.
Micky SimonciniCloud Services Manager, Signode
I truly believe that being part of this community has expanded my tool kit and helped me grow as a leader.
Charlotte ParkerHead of IT Service & Operations, New Look
An amazing look at culture and how it can lead an organisation to success or self-destruction.
Neil CryerHead of IT Operations, Village Hotels
An inspiring community of tech leaders, supporting one another, sharing and learning.
James DarlastonIT Director, Hellmann Worldwide Logistics
Excellent forum for discussing all things leadership in IT.
Karen PoulterCIO, SUEZ
Thought provoking discussions, expertly facilitated, and some excellent speakers.
James MaunderDirector of IT, King Edward VII's Hospital
A great initiative, bringing together technology leaders to participate in thought provoking sessions.
Andy OultonHead of Hosting and Infrastructure Services, The Co-op Group
Sessions are inspiring and motivating. The variety of guest speakers brings experiences from different industries.
Arunas RudysGroup Digital Workplace Manager, ABP
Fantastic networking group! I have learned and shared so much since joining this group.
Chris CrowtherRegional Director, Equifax UK
Excellent, friendly community of tech leaders providing thought-provoking talks and discussions.
Liam BennettChief Technology Officer
Where our members lead
  • NHS
  • Lidl
  • Costa
  • M&S
  • Co-op
  • Morrisons
  • Pets at Home
  • King's College London
  • Adecco
  • New Look
  • Hellmann
  • Signode
  • Village Hotels
  • Tilbury Douglas
  • North Lanarkshire Council
  • ProMan
  • Dune London
  • Giggling Squid
  • NatureScot
  • Santander

Our story

Why it exists

The Curious Mindset started in early 2020, in the first weeks of lockdown. Bandish wanted something closer to a support group than a stage. Somewhere technology leaders could say the things they couldn't say at work.

“I didn't want listeners.
I wanted witnesses.”
Bandish Nayee, founder

Where this is going

A world where no technology leader leads alone.

Three values

Kindness.

We give more than we take.

Curiosity.

We'd rather ask than pretend.

Consistency.

We do what we say.

The team

The people who make it happen.

Making every session, dinner and event happen.

  • Bandish NayeeFounder and Head of Community
  • Bryony ChristieProducer and Show Runner
  • Beatrice EyalesOperations and Systems
  • Andy McMenemyHost
  • Steve MaxwellTechnology Leader, Co‑host
  • Tristan UnwinTechnology Leader, Newsletter Writer
  • Aletha PasambaCreative and Editorial Lead
  • Deborah BambicoVideo Editorial
  • Hans TanGrowth and Performance
  • Angelique TagamaCommunity Growth Lead
  • Michelle NayeeFinance

How it works

Membership is not guaranteed.

Four steps. A person at every one.

  1. Request an invitation

    Tell us who you are and what you're carrying.

  2. We read it

    Every request, personally.

  3. We get in touch

    If it looks like a fit, that'll be Angelique.

  4. Your first session

    Your invitation lands, you join the room and you say as much or as little as you like.

Membership costs an hour every fortnight and nothing else. Turn up with a curious mindset.

Be your best self.

Already a member?

Know a leader who belongs here?

A member's word is the strongest signal we get. Put forward a technology leader who is carrying what you carry and we'll read their request first, with your name on the introduction. They'll hear from us within a week.

The one thing we ask is that you bring people who will give more than they take.

Bring a leader Prefer to make the introduction yourself? Put them forward and we'll give you a personal link to send them.

Request an invitation

Before we ask anything about you, we'd like to show you what the room feels like.

It takes about four minutes. You'll answer one real question from the room, privately, then we'll show you the sessions we'd put you in and you can choose your first seat. The details come last.

Nothing you type in the first part is stored or sent to anyone, including us.

A question the room was asked

What's the decision you made recently that nobody around you saw the cost of?

Take 30 seconds and type it, or just sit with it. This box never leaves your screen. It isn't saved and it isn't sent, which is exactly how the room works.

Private, never stored and cleared when you leave.0:30
or press Enter

Now, honestly

That's what a session feels like, except the room is full of people who've carried the same thing. Which of these are true for you right now?

Pick at least one, even if it's the last one.

What we heard

You're carrying more than the job description says.

This season is about the parts of leadership no one talks about. Here are the sessions we'd want you in first.

Your first seat

If we invite you, where should we meet you first?

Sessions are live and virtual, usually Fridays from 1pm to 2pm UK time. Pick the one you'd protect the diary for.

Choose one, you can change it later.

Now, who are you?

Just enough for us to find you and write back.

We'll need a first name to write back to you.
And a last name.
That doesn't look like an email address. Check for a typo.
What's your role? A rough title is fine.
Where do you lead?

One honest answer

The room only works because people turn up. Can you?

It's usually every other Friday from 1pm to 2pm UK time. Be straight with us.

Pick the one that's closest to true.

Let us know how you found us.

Your seat

Here's what we'll hold while we read your request.

You'll need to tick this one.

Sent

Thank you, there. A person, not a system, reads this next.

  1. Within a weekSomeone from the team reads your request and looks you up.
  2. If it's a fitYou'll hear from Angelique, sometimes with a quick call and sometimes straight to your held seat.
  3. Your first sessionThe invitation lands, you show up and you say as much or as little as you like.
  4. A week laterThe guest's book arrives at your door, with a note.
Until then

Put a soft hold in your diary for your seat. If we can't fit you in this season we'll say so plainly and tell you when the next door opens.

No one leads alone.

Bring a leader

Who should be sitting next to you?

Technology leaders only, please. Vendors, recruiters and consultants won't get in, however good they are, so it's kinder not to put them forward.

We'll need their name.
What do they lead?
Where?
We need one way to reach them.
One line is enough, but we do need it.

Let us know whether they're expecting us.

The bad orange rule applies to referrals too. If you're not sure they'd give more than they take, hold off, because your name is on this.

And you

So we can mention you by name, and tell you when they're in.

Your name goes on the introduction.
That doesn't look like an email address.

Sent

Thank you, there. They will hear from us within a week, with your name on it.

If you'd rather make the introduction yourself, send them your own link to the door. When they open it they'll see you brought them, and we'll read their request first.

The link carries your first name and nothing else.

Be our guest

Most of our guests we go and find. A few find us.

Every fortnight a guest spends 60 minutes with a room of senior technology leaders. Polar explorers, negotiators, Olympians, pilots and authors have all sat in that seat. If you've written the book or lived the story, tell Bryony. She produces the room and every message sent from this page goes straight to her.

Bryony ChristieProducer and Show Runner
  • The room. Senior technology leaders, live and virtual, usually on a Friday lunchtime UK time. A conversation with our host, then a Q&A that never leaves the room. No sales pressure in either direction.
  • The book. We take ownership of buying copies of the guest's book for the community members who attend and send each one with a note. 1,230+ so far.
  • The reach. Your part of the conversation is recorded and we share short clips of it across our channels, so what you said travels well beyond the room.
  • What it isn't. A stage. If what you're after is a platform for a product, a service or a practice, it's kinder to say now that this isn't the room for it.
We'll need your name.
That doesn't look like an email address.
Tell us the book or the story.
One link is enough.
One line is enough, but we do need it.

Bryony replies to every one of these personally. If it's a fit for a coming season she'll suggest a call.

Sent

Thank you, there. Bryony reads this next.

She'll be in touch within a couple of weeks. If it's a fit for a coming season she'll suggest a call.